A Surprising Key to Connecting with Your Wife
June 11, 2009

This week I'm going to talk about something you can do to deepen the connection with your wife. And single guys, this is an insight you won't want to miss...

I've discovered that most married men don't pray with their wives very often. I'm not sure why, but I'd guess that some guys feel awkward praying out loud with a woman they consider more spiritual than themselves. Other men may not know what to say.

Whatever the reason, if you're one of those guys, I think you'll be surprised by the positive benefits you'll reap from just a short daily prayer with your wife. I could mention the spiritual benefits of answered prayers but I suspect you'd see that one coming. So instead I'd like to point out a benefit you may not have considered.

Quite simply, when you pray with your wife it results in a deep connection. Maybe you don't feel the need for such a connection, but your wife does. She wants to feel like she knows you as deeply as possible. And she wants to feel you know her that way. When a man prays with his wife he's pulling back the curtains and letting God look inside--and he's giving his wife a peek too. He's talking with God about what's important and letting his wife join in the conversation.

If you've heard me speak then you may remember me challenging men to try to try to carve out time every day to pray with their wife--even if it's just for a few minutes. It doesn't have to be anything fancy--just talk to God about your needs and those of your family. Thank him for his goodness.

A while back I received an email from a man who said: "Bill, I pray for my kids every night when I put them to bed. But I've never prayed with my wife. After your seminar I decided to take the challenge. As I prayed with my wife that evening she wept. She was deeply touched by our brief prayer time together. We've prayed every night since." Paul exhorted husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church (Eph. 5:25-27)--one way we can do that is to pray with them.